I had sexual relations with my friend’s sweetheart

I engaged in sexual relations with my friend’s sweetheart. Question: Hi! I’m trapped experiencing the same thing and I want assistance frantically. I’m a 21-year-old young lady and am in the last semester of my graduation course. I have a dearest companion and we have been together since school days; we are near the point that we are practically similar to sisters.

There is a new improvement that has been giving me restless evenings. It so happened that during the birthday celebration of one of our school mates, I showed up for the party with my closest companion’s beau since she was unwell and we had made arrangements that we three would go together. Since she was unable to make it, I went with him to the party.

I don’t have the foggiest idea what happened in light of the fact that everybody was high and were partaking in a great deal. I wound up engaging in sexual relations with my closest companion’s sweetheart since he was becoming extremely passionate about leaving his companions after school and I began reassuring him. One thing prompted one more and we wound up in the bed.

It has been fourteen days and this is killing me. I can’t confront my closest companion nor her beau. Also, she confides in me such a lot of that it’s killing me. On the off chance that I tell her, I will lose her until the end of time. If it’s not too much trouble, let me know how would it be advisable for me I respond. How would I tell her without losing her?- By Anonymous

Reaction by Dr Kedar Tilwe: Dear peruser, as a grown-up we settle on rash choices without thoroughly considering their outcomes. This might pursue you lament your choices later on; particularly as your activities can have accidental or unjustifiable outcomes which can frequently cause us a ton of melancholy and stress. Tolerating liability regarding your own behavior is the first and most significant stage towards managing what is going on; and I am happy to see you are recognizing it.

I had sexual relations with my friend’s sweetheart

Experiencing the same thing you have portrayed, almost certainly, your dearest companion might feel deceived and undermined, which would no doubt discolor your relationship with her. So ‘if’ and ‘when’ you tell her is your own choice, and ought to be founded on your own ethical convictions as well as the significance of your confidence in one another.

Nonetheless, may I propose that you sit down to chat with her beau first and check whether you both are in total agreement, and concur that this was a one-time undertaking. Having an experienced discussion with him will quiet things down, may give you a more clear viewpoint and a normal way forward. Additionally, kindly recall that you have been BFF’s for quite a while, so treasure this relationship and utilize this experience to esteem your fellowship more later on.

Dr Kedar Tilwe, Psychiatrist and Sexologist, Fortis Hospital, Mulund, Mumbai.

Article you might like

My Significant Other Doesn’t Get My Feelings